Friday, August 10, 2012

Spit Camp Update

The camp update is not very interesting. After the morning conversation with CC, I received a message on my voicemail at 12:40 pm. CC's voicemail said that the boy had been picked up, and had "spent the morning in the office away from the other campers doing other activities." He also said that he would miss the following day of camp as well.

At that point I didn't care what had happened to the boy. I thought that the camp rule calling for an immediate suspension for spitting was quite severe, but assumed they had it for a reason and since we signed a contract agreeing to the rules, I thought the rules should be enforced.  More than anything else, I was still shocked that a camp counselor had lied to my face in front of a bunch of impressionable kiddos.

When I picked up Meazi, the counselor was not outside. Meazi plopped into her seat and said, "Mom, that boy was sent home. Did CC call you to tell you he wasn't a liar?" I said that he called to tell me the kid's mom had picked him up. "And did he tell you that he is not a liar? He wanted you to know that he wasn't lying. He thought the little brother had just been dropped off." I looked at her face and she looked so worried. There is a tiny possibility that this could have happened, I guess. It is extremely doubtful. I tried to discuss it a little more with Meazi until she said, "Mom, how many days do we have to continue talking about this?" I mentioned that the boy would not be present on Thursday either and she said, "Oh, that's because he stepped on someone's head. Also, his brother told me their parents grounded him for two weeks for spitting in my face."

Not wanting to make her five day camp experience completely about this kid and his behavior problems, and this counselor with questionable truth telling abilities, I have kind of let it go, sort of. There is a very slight possibility the CC didn't see the kid until after he talked to me, very slight possibility. Shouldn't I give him the benefit of the doubt?

I know that he lied. But my kid believes him. She is visibly worried that I won't believe him.

That night Steven was working out back on a construction project for our kitchen. Melese came running in from outside and said, "Momma! Daddy is lying! He said that I have his tape measure and then he just found it in his own pocket! Daddy lied to me just like that man lied to you!"

At least Melese knows what really happened.


  1. This IS interesting. Do you think Meazi generated this concern for you not believing Dipshit (you may call him CC, but I prefer to use his real name) on her own? My take is that he was working her at camp, worried for himself that you know, not think, he is a liar.

    Liar or not, dude is insanely incompetent in a dozen different ways. Meazi can take it and get over it. You can tell her "Yeah, people make mistakes, no biggie" and move on as far as she is concerned. But for real, this really ought to be addressed with Dipshit's program director.

  2. I want you to know that I have used this post as a jumping off point to talk with my DD about what happens if kids do something mean to her and the importance of her sharing that with me. We spoke a bit about it and I swore to her (in girl talk, you know, like, totally pinky swore)that I would not embarrass her or make a scene or anything that she completely thinks I would do (can't IMAGINE where she gets that idea)if she told me about some sort of incident and she kept saying very URGENTLY over and over, "but that has never happened to me!"


    Why do I have a hard time believing that?

    Anyway, I wanted you to know that because of your post, I had a good talk with her, regardless of what she said, I know she heard me. I told her I have her back, I will always have her back and we can talk about things and discuss ways to handle things, but only if she comes to me.

    Thank you for giving me an opportunity to talk with DD.

  3. I still think you need to tell the camp director what happened. But in the trying not to totally embarrass your kid who is worried front, I'd maybe wait until her camp is over.

    See look at me--being all bossy and up in your business? My daughter would NOT be shocked.

    1. Yes, I think I need to tell him. Can I just send him the blog posts? ;)

    2. indeed--with all the comments!

  4. It makes me sick to thing of a CC "working" a camper to see things different than reality. Even if he did not see the boy, he knew the boy had NOT been sent home the day prior. So, he is a liar.
    When camp is over I would go to admin and I would explain to Measzi that you have to go because it is important that CC's bosses know that he does not understand the rules of the camp and the rules of truthful communication. Your job as a parent is to make sure his bosses teach him the rules so he doesn't make the same mistake again. It will be up to his bosses how they handle it because bosses are the parents of the work place and it is important they know when one of their kids/employees needs extra help.

    1. Thank you. I said this to Meazi in the car ride home. She says she understands why I need to speak with his boss.